Why women date “jerks”
You’ve gotta check out “Nice Guys” of OK Cupid, it’s amazing.
I’ve had non-reciprocated crushes on friends. I know it’s painful. Here’s some unsolicited advice:
Oh, right, why women date “jerks”:
1) Maybe this guy isn’t really that bad, you’re just sad that the woman you like chose him and not you. I’m not making fun of you; it really sucks. I’m partial to this explanation largely because whenever a friend I was crushing on dated someone else, they honestly turned out to be pretty cool dudes. I like to think that reflects well on my judgement via the transitive property.
2) Some men are assholes, and they often have no trouble attracting women. Not because women love being treated badly (huh?) but probably because stereotypical assholes tend to share a cluster of desirable traits like confidence, ambition, and charm. But the cool thing is you don’t have to be a jerk to have these! Martin Luther King spoke with authority and refused to back down even in the face of death threats, and very few would say he was a jerk.
MLK was, in fact, quite the ladies’ man. The FBI has the tapes to prove it.